We and the world. We and the life. A report is often confrontational. How many times we think that the world is not as it should be, that life is unfair, we deserve more and better, others do not understand, we have misunderstood, our head is a goat ...
If we could do things as we want, then yes, the world would be better. Everywhere: at work, in our family, neighbors, even our friends - that wonderful person, gambissima exceptional, that we love - and yet she always makes the usual mistakes and does not understand, if only we listen to some 'more would be so simple could have so much more ...
We would do better. In a megalomania that involves us all more or less, we have a clear picture of the situation, linear, crystalline, especially with regard to the lives of others. In our life, when things do not go and it becomes impossible to accept (the reality clashes too much with our awareness of how things should be, to be fair), then try to change: people, events, things. And in this endless attempt to change things, perhaps to leave a mark on the world, we realize that change is an unlikely out (if ever possible) and certainly not lasting. All things spin and the static - even if we delude ourselves to find deterministically in things and people - just not of this world.
ignore perhaps the easiest way. That is not indifference, resignation, depression where we fall often when we realize that the world and people are not there to be modified by us. No. Apart from the illusion (or wishful thinking, or aspiration) to change the world, and depression, there is a third way, which is to change ourselves . And 'the very essence of Eastern philosophies and perhaps even Western ones (some, at least). A growing awareness that the Life is a river and we can enjoy our little adventure on the raft, small monads in a world that often do not understand (but do we?) and sometimes we do not own to love, if only we let ourselves be guided by the water and watched the show, taking part with the lightness of the test possibility that accepts the limits of its function (how much effort saved in not having / wanting to change the world!) and that people should be loved with all their faults. It seems to me that this concept is expressed in a clear in a quote from Twain located in an old book but very young (and still available in stores), written by three leading figures of the mythical Mental Research Institute in Palo Alto , Watzlawick, Weakland and Fish. Good reading.
"It's Saturday afternoon holiday for everyone except for Tom Sawyer that punishment must whiten thirty jardi of fence, nine feet high. Life seems empty el'esistenza's just a heavy burden. But it is not the work that is unbearable, especially torments him the idea that his companions passed him and teased him because he has to work. But in this dark and hopeless, says Mark Twain, the enlightened inspiration. A great, magnificent inspiration. Shortly after a young man appears, just the guy he most feared for his sarcasm. " "Hey, old man, a bit 'hard labor, right?"
"Oh, are you, Well? I had not even agree that you were there ... "
" Look, I'm going to swim the river, now. Do not you like to come too? But perhaps you prefer to work, right? But of course that you prefer ... "
Tom stared at the boy for a moment, then asked:" What you call work? "
'Well, what you do now, is not a job?"
Tom took up the brush and answers with great indifference, 'Well, in a sense it is, and in some sense is not. What I know is that a positive like Tom Sawyer. "
"What a story you want me to drink? Did you enjoy doing the painter? ".
The brush continued undeterred.
"If I have fun? Well, 'I can not understand why I should not have fun. Perhaps a fence to whiten find it all, every day? "
The observations of work in a new vision. Ben stopped nibbling an apple. Tom moved with extreme care in the brush up and down, then withdrew to observe the effect, tapped here, a nudge there, but still seemed pleased. Ben watching every move, and always was interested Moreover, he felt more attracted to the job. Suddenly he said: "Look, Tom, let me whitewash a little to me."
Source:
Paul Watzlawick, John H. Weakland, Richard Fisch, Change . Training and problem solving , Astrolabe, 1974
Mark Twain, Tom Sawyer Huckelberry Finn, Einaudi, Torino, 1963
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